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Knowing your score is the first step in taking care of you. KayBee understands what you face as we help family caregivers everyday. Let us help you become more confident in your role as a caregiver and work together to lower your score.

Score 0 to 21

None to Mild Burden

Your burden is light to non-existent, maybe because your family member isn't fully dependent on you, you share caregiving duties with other supportive family members, or maybe you have not felt changes in your life due to your caregiver status.  Check-in time to time to make sure your score stays none to mild.

KayBee suggestions: At this stage, we encourage you to practice asking for help and opening up communication among family members or friends. A free app called Caring Village is one tool KayBee uses with families to help enhance communication and organization. If you have a hard time asking for help in this stage, read Forbe’s Interview with Larry Freed. Though Mr. Freed’s focus is within corporate cultures, his words within this article best describe the art of asking for help.

Score 22 to 40

Mild to Moderate Burden

Your burden of care is mild or moderate, possibly fluctuating from week to week. At this level, you may be having to change some aspects of your lifestyle for your family member, but overall this is just mild worry as this individual still lives independently.  Depending on your distance and ability to see your loved one, you may be dealing more with worries for the future, or worries of your ability to handle their growing needs.

KayBee suggestions: Fluctuations in stress may be a result of some change in your loved one’s health that has not been fully explained or has been explained with suggestions of needing assistance in the near future. Health care providers knowledge of disease, medications, prognosis are extremely helpful to understand the big picture of your loved one’s health. However, when the time comes for resources on how to live with these changes in health, providers do not always know about the resources in your community. You can take matters into your own hand and start asking friends for suggestions, conduct your own Google research, or call KayBee to start a plan for the future.

Score 41 to 60

Moderate to Severe Burden

Your burden of care is steadily moderate or severe. Being a caregiver has shifted your lifestyle and could be impacting your relationships, or affecting your career, financial situation or mental and emotional health. You may feel less in control of your own time and schedule. Your loved one likely requires a higher level of care, and depends on you regularly. You may face worry or anxiety over care decisions, your loved one’s living and transportation situation and more. You deal with regular feelings of frustration, stress, guilt or anger.

KayBee suggestions: This score requires planning and action to prevent you moving into severe burden. Caregiver burden will affect your own health, which will lessen your ability to take care of your loved one. If your loved one’s illness is progressing, this stress will not lessen. KayBee suggests opening up to family members, neighbors, or friends about needing help. They likely have been watching you, but do not know what to do exactly to help. Opening up about your stress and guilt makes you human. KayBee is here to talk you through how to coordinate the help you need to support your loved one.

Score 61 to 88

Severe burden

Your burden of care is severe, and you may be unable to "turn off" your worry, frustration or anxiety of caring for your loved one. You could be facing fatigue, sleeplessness or other health issues as a result. Most likely, your loved one is fully dependent on you, and may require a lot of medical support. You may feel as though you have lost your identity outside of being a caregiver. You could be dealing with family friction or strained friendships, and may be shouldering financial obligations for your loved one. 

KayBee suggestions: This number is comparable to hearing from your doctor you have high cholesterol and have an increased risk of a heart attack or stroke. The difference is there is no medication to give caregivers to lessen the stress of caregiving. You need a comprehensive plan to tackle your loved one’s care and your needs. KayBee offers families a place to turn to identify resources and create a plan to reduce the stress you are feeling. We are here when you are ready. Contact us by calling (317) 702-1333 or click the button to submit a form.